Let your kids struggle

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A must read short blog for parents


A man, an avid Gardener saw a small Butterfly laying few eggs in one of the pots in his garden and since that day he lmonarchooked at the egg with ever growing curiosity and eagerness.

As time passed the egg started to move and shake a little.

He was excited to see a new life coming up right in front of his eyes and spent hours watching the egg as it started to expand and develop cracks.

A tiny head and antennae started to come out ever so slowly and the man’s excitement knew no bounds.

He got his magnifying glasses and sat to watch the life and body of a pupa coming out, but he witnessed the struggle of the tender pupa trying to come out of the egg and couldn’t resist his urge to “HELP”.

He went and got a tender forceps to help the egg break, a nip here, a nip there to help the struggling life and the pupa was out.butterfly_pupa_pre_chrysalis

The man was ecstatic!

He waited now each day for the pupa to grow and fly like a beautiful butterfly, but alas that never happened.

The larvae pupa had a over-sized head, kept crawling along in the pot for the full 4 weeks and died!

Depressed the man went to his Entymologist (insect specialist) friend and asked the reason for the same.

His friend explained the struggle to break out of the egg helps the larvae to send blood to its wings and the head push helps its head to remain small so that the tender wings can support it through its 4 week life cycle.

In his eagerness to help, the man destroyed a beautiful life!

Struggles helps all of us, that’s why a bit of effort goes a long way to develop our strength to face life’s difficulties!

As parents, we sometimes go too far trying to help and protect our kids from life’s harsh realities and disappointments.

We don’t want our kids to struggle like we did.family-867

Harvard psychiatrist Dr. Dan Kindlon says that over-protected children are more likely to struggle in relationships and
with challenges.

We’re sending our kids the message that they’re not capable of helping themselves.

To quote clinical psychologist,
Dr. Wendy ‘s Moral:

“It is Our Job to prepare Our Children for the Road & Not prepare the Road for Our Children”


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    • alka
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    • January 11, 2017

    This story I have read before too. Yes I agree that v should guide and encourage our kids to have a path of understanding and hard work to learn anything . Here I will quote my nephew's words which is now an air force pilot. He says that if I m studying and some concept I m unable to understand then I will keep on trying to make it ..No matter whatever is the time. Only self help will carve u like a diamknd.

    • Krishna nagdev
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    • January 11, 2017

    I completely agree on this story. ...... Self help is the best help

    • Chaya
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    • January 11, 2017

    Our parents have just given us simple education and given us good experiences about life. Never bothered or scared us about tomorrow. Today's parents are worried too much about their children

    • Srushti
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    • January 11, 2017

    I think children have really become very dependent on others and are taking their parent's struggles very lightly. They aren't really at fault , parents have started making things easy for them. And it's only going to affect their children later in life. This blog is indeed a good reminder to all of us that nothing comes easy or free in life and the only way to grow is to go through all the phases and facets of life and we need to make our kids learn that as they are growing And we know for a fact that gold only gets harder when heater to high temperatures.

    • Srushti
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    • Madhura
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    • January 11, 2017

    So true. When kids will learn to fight their own fight they will learn the value the luxuries of the life they are fortunate enough to access. They will in true sense understand the meaning of freedom and self dependance and not be boggled by the fake definitions and exaggerations of freedom. Most of all it will make them humble and responsible

    • Bhavana r Agarwal
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    • January 11, 2017

    Nice lesson fr parents who really do everything fr there children but don't allow them to do anything all must read this and learn to give proper guideline to our children rather then making them lazy

    • Priyadarshana
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    • January 11, 2017

    So true as parents we want our kids to get all that which we think our parents were unable to give bit in this we forget that our parents helped us to think in difficulties and find solutions and face the life as it is and admire the out come as parents we give so much comfort to our kids that they forget that in life that have struggle and the result of that is so fruitful

    • Pushpa Sonawane
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    • January 11, 2017

    Very nice article.....And I totally agree, I would say today's parent's are more concerned about their kids progress and they just want the best for their child. In the bargain they hardly know they are making things so easy and achievable for them. But yes we have to let them fight their own battles and this will make them strong. Thanks for this beautiful article.

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